Walking in other people's shoes

I hate when people say that I should walk a mile in some elses shoes. That is just such bullshit and so is the grass is always grennier on the other side. The grass isn't always greener because if it was we all lie cheat and steal to get there. One of the first lessons in life is that it isn't fair.
Ok I am not that religious but I always enjoyed this story. Whenever my great aunt hhears me complain about how my life isdn't fair she tell-s the "Cross Story". Her goal was to make me see that my life isn;'t as bad as I so-metimes make it out to be. One day a man think he has the problems of the world on his shoulders. He goes "God I can't handle this cross. May I please have another?" God responds "OK follow me" and the go into a room filled with crosses. The guy picks one of the crosses up and says it''s too heavy. He picks another up and say it drags on the ground and is slowing him down. Finally the man finds a cross in the corner and said, "This is the one I want!" God turns to him and says "That is the cross you threw away"
Alright we all know the moral of the story, but everytime my aunt finishes telling it, I feel like saying you know I would have marked my cross and still chose a heavier cross. Stupid I know but maybe I could deal with worse problems better than I could handle my o-won.
All this over not getting to see someone this weekend. After all I feel like I am always last in her life, I kno-w deep down I'm not. It starts with this and then I go into the entire nine yards how my brother goes out every night and rareely takes me with him. I know he just feels taking me out is risky and just doesn't need the extra headaches.
Alright I don't want to do everything he's does, I just want my own stuff not to be so far spread out. OK like going out to the bars I don't admit that I physically can't get out as many times as I want. It only hits me when I try to crawl into bed when the evening is over. The point I'm trying to make is sometimes it seems I always pay double the price when I enjoy myself!


The week of Thanksgiving '05--Part II

Being it's the Monday after Thanksgiving I should label this as such, but I am not renaming "Part I". Alright the traditional Wenesday night barfest continues, with a twist this year. People that think New Year's Eve is a big drinking holiday don't go out the night before Thanksgiving. Knowing you have four full days to mend your wounds from a very late evening helps too. In a way it's even better than Christmas Eve, only different is you arenn't looking forward to the next morning.It came into question a mulititude of times if I could survive the walking. Although thee timing and the amount of drinking, was perfet! The bars up in Pearl River NY held something called a bar crawl consisting of a number of bars all within walking distance, yes even by my standards. It's something my brother wanted to do last year, but wound up staying in one bar. Alright the night began with an opening round at Felix's House. Ok all Thanksgivings open with drinks at Felix's, but that's another trademark of the night. Then onto the bar crawl, which was the main event of the evening. We started out slow, but as the night went on, we hit five bars. The guys weren't going to drag me along at the end of the evening, but then again for some reason I did OK not my own that night.
I did meet some of my friends, both from high school and from the fire department. A perfect balance be tween two things very important to me. I seldomly like to combine the different aspects of my lif. However on the night before Thanksgiving they seem to mesh perfectly. For one night only friends that I haven't seen in a very long time, suddenly come out of the woodwork.
Although the conversation basically never changes, you can feel a difference. It's another year gone zooming past. Filled with the joys and sorrows we all deal with in life. It used to be about how about it's going in college, now it's how's the job. Small talk is slung around as glasses of alcohol keep flowing from the bottles and taps.
It's the type of tradition not found in books on Americana or television ads enticing you to get out for big holiday discounts the Friday morning after you stuff yourself the night before. This night is reserved for rekindling old friendships, while taking stock.
I am glad I shared it with friends


The week of Thanksgivnig '05--part I

Ever since I was little I could always remember I like Christams better than Thanksgiving (what kid doesn 't?). Alright that still maybe true but I can say with a straight face I like the week that leads upto Thanksgiving better thaN the week leading upto- Christmas. Maybe it's because Thanksgiving is always on a Thursday, no matter what the DATE it falls on. One of the very few highlights of going to school here was that the week before Thanksgiving was always half days, it still remains the same today, Monday and Tuesday are parent-teacher conferences and they make Wenesday a half day jut because it's the day before Thanksgiving.
The night before has become just as important, it started in high school when we had the tradition Pascack Valley bon fire. Ok I only made it the t h e last two of my five year at PV, but they both were what I would consider two of the higlights of going to high school.
Now that we're older my other brother Peter and I go out to the bars the night before which has been a big deal! We just go out It's a tradition that has been past down from generation to generaion With the exception of New Year's Eve it's the best time to drink!

Also see:The  Week of Thanksgiving '05--Part II


I should have written myself in

Jon Corzine was never actually in danger of losing the election, it just seemed that way. Right from the beginning everyone knew, and publicly aknowledged Corzine was the dead on favorite. It was a simple as getting a Democrat far enough away from McGreveey, he fit the bill. Some might argue he is just another "looney liberal" but he falls short ofd a Kennedy, Polosi or the worst of the bunch, Howard Dean. I met Corzine a few times, knew he would always be n the right side of the issues, but I am in no way declaring my undying loyality to the Democratic party. They have so much wrong with their orginization, it's sickening. Howard Dean being in charge is all the evidence I need to prove my theory. Putting a medical doctor in charge of a political orginization is JUST AS BAD as having a trial lawyer at the helm. An exception to the rule is Lindsay Graham of South Carolina who would get my vote any day of the week

I split my vote, I seldomly vote strictly on party lines. It drives the people I talk politics crazy, but that's how I vote. For those who call this method hap-hazard consider that has anyone 100% agreed with one canidate? I mean people usually vote based on a sole set principals they are devoted to and that's all they consider. I am more open-minded, I see no point in being loyal to one side or the other. BOTH seem to alienate anyone that doesn't fall in with the rank and file of the party. On that note the problem I had with Forrester is he wanted to cleanup only the meses the Democrats made, he didn't reflect on any of the Republicans problems. I didn't expect he would, just hoped.
Forrester lost not because of his ideas, which in theory were excellent,p but people saw right through them. Whenever he talked about corruption, he meant DEMOCRATIC CORRUPTION, that's why he lost. He didn 't sell the idea of self-reflection, he didn't aknowledge his own party needed reforming also, he couldn't, he would have lost his base! What should he have done different?

Politicians who don't always follow the majority find themselves in a tight spot at one time or another , take John McCain and Rudy Guiliani for example. People would give their eye-teeth to see them be President. Unlike the previous three Presidents, and most of the Democratic canidates they are truly uniters. That's the kind of politician I would be ! I can 't understand if the majority of Americans consider themselves "middle of the road" why can't we elect a "middle of the road canidate". Sure folks running for office make every attempt to portray themselves as a canidate for "everyone" but that seldomly has been accomplished. Once they are in office, all the talk about "uniting people" goes from a roar to a whisper.
I point again to Howard Dean, the downfall of the Democratic party.; He, like people on the right is an extremist. To him ALL Republicans are WRONG, no matter what. A Republican can critize Bush and deep down Dean wouldn't trust her or him. That is WRONG! I wonder what would Dean do if John McCain ran for President in 2008?

I want to congratulate Jon Corzine, hopefully he will pull New Jersey out of the gutter. If he doesn't I know how I'll vote the next time around!!