3/19/2016

Goodbye Aunt Millie

RIP Aunt Millie, my first penpal, my 3rd grandma. I will miss your letters, playing "office" with the cousins and all the chats. You always knew how to cheer me up. Say hi to grandma, grandpa and Uncle Jack............until we meet again


These days when someone passes people remember them b y posting a Facebook status. Friends of the mourner "Like" the comment and reply with condolences. As much as I have been on both sides of this kind of Facebook status, I feel there are certain times where more  needs to be said, a lot more. I found out earlier this even my Great Aunt Millie, my mom's aunt, grandma's oldest sister passed away earlier this week. Like me she was the oldest in here family, she had four younger sisters.  Aunt Millie didn't have grandchildren until much later in her life, so when she visit  my grandparents house, she " borrow" u s for a week. Back when it was just my  brothers and two or three cousins she devote one full day to each of us.  We go to the park behind my grandparents house. Man she spoiled us more than grandma, yes that was possible.

She worked on the stock exchange for awhile and inspired my cousins and I to "go into business". Of course my girl cousins started their own  fa shion company. While I had a transportation safety operations. I won't get into details now, but Aunt Millie was an "employee". We even write letters, she had the Levittown (where she lived) Branch while I was based in my grandparents basement.  I still think about it and smile. Every letter  I have written stems  from corresponding  with Aunt Millie.

One time Chris had a weekend soccer tournament out in Long Island, right near Levittown, I really wasn't thrilled about going for three days. Aunt Millie got wind of this and immediately called and asked if I could  stay with her. My mother knew Aunt Millie would find a way to see me anyway, so she agreed. I had Aunt Millie all to myself for the weekend! We talked, watched movies, ate ice cream, just the two of us.

Then there was the time in Florida when Aunt Millie was down at the same time visiting my grandparents as my mom dad two brothers and I. As it happened my two uncles were down there also. That along with the fact  it happened to be my 22nd birthday made the trip very very special.

I haven't seen Aunt Millie in years, she visited a year before grandma died.  

3/02/2016

Thanks Brian Gelnaw

 A lot of my blogging friends occasionally allow guest post to their blogs, some good some bad, but I have to post this post  by my friend Briann Gelnaw. Brian and I  forged a friendship the way a lot of my post-high school friendships were forged, at the Cornerstone in Hillsdale. Yes he was one of the  "Thursday Night Crew" just like Alex & Jamie. Brian has taken the 50 days 50 friends challenge where he posts a picture a day of a friend and writes how he met  them. Well  today he decided to highlight yours truly.I consider it an early birthday present:

Day 22: Justin Mattes 

It must have been the year Sanchez came to the Jets. I talked shit all season, and with good reason...as far as I was concerned they were going to win the whole damn thing. Super Bowl was ours!!!! Well the Jets lost in the AFC Championship game. My friends busted on me, my brother in law laughed and told me how the Jets will never win. Then from the other side of the room this guy who I just met that night waves me over. Beer in his hand he toasts me and says that he's sorry my Jets lost...and that they suck!!! Enter my friendship with Justin. He's one of a kind. Biggest heart around. He's a wise ass, and needs to be to run with the crew. He's also a very loving person who would give you anything he had. He writes poems that are amazing. He constantly is looking to engage people and to bring a smile to their face. Justin always has time for anyone. I've never seen him in a down mood...I've seen him a little tipsy, but never down. His ability to connect with others is amazing. His laugh and smile are warming to the soul. I don't know too many people who can start off a friendship by insulting the other, but Justin did....and I'm a better person because of it and him! I don't see things in black and white, but with Justin's help I sure see more color, beauty and clarity. He's opened my eyes to what you can do if you believe in yourself. Justin has touched the hearts of so many in our small community. What he doesn't know is that we take that love, that joy, that laughter that he has given and we spread it out through the world. His one smile can turn into a thousand smiles. "A waterfall starts with one drop of rain"