As soon as my parents bought the house in Cape May I knew the clock was ticking. It was always thier plan to move down to Cape May, even when my mother say she'd never do it during their many arguments over building the house. b Although they want to add a secoond floor which eventually meant rebuilding the entire house. Well long story shorft, an architect, a lawyer and a varience hearing later it turned out the house was to be rebuilt from the ground up. That took a year and more, so that meant a delay in moving. Folks around town knew we were moving and it was brought up every where we went. I was sick and tired of people asking me "When is the big move?" After all I spend all of my 37 years in that house.
While I love Cape May one of the hardest parts of leaving Woodcliff Lake was not being able to ride the scooter down to the firehouse any more. I told my friends on the department, who I have now known for 20+ years. We've grown together, I watched people I went to school with rise through the rannks, I went to high school with the chief. W ell folks in the department decided to/ have a little going away party for me. I got a, dinner at the firehouse. At the end of the dinner the chief called me to the front of the room
Months went by and I got an email from someone from the fire department asking for my address, I excitedly gave it to him knowing what was coming in the mail. As soon as it arrived I opened it the best I could, thenw my heart sank, it was on Chris's birthday and at the end of the week Zander and Quinn were visting. I knew I kcouldn't go but it was so special I got the invitation. This entry was a month in the making!~!!!
The original address of this blog was jaymatt1978.blogspot.com because "jaymatt1978" was attached to all my e-mails and IM screen names. Actually I created "jaymatt1978" at Cittone Institute the instructor wanted us to use Yahoo instant messenger and I needed a new screen name, it stuck with me. My family always calls my "Jay" and my dad and his best friend share the same first name "Peter"they refer to each other by their last names "Mattes" and "Brennan". I was born in March of 1978, so I put all three of them together. When I fought to get Bergenscanner.com back I quickly registered Justinmattes.com just " so because I was so paranoid about losing another domain. Hindsight being 20/20 I don't think my name is a high commodity. Anyway I redirected it to this blog as a temporary place holder. My license plate website was still on a free hosting website called Tripod and I hastily threw some poetry on the now defunct Geo cities. When I moved both sites together to the same sever, I decided it was time to move Justinmattes.com to the main website, have my license plate website be justinmattess.com/plates and obviously my poetry website be justinmattes.com/poetry.
After doing some exploring on Blogger, I found out you can change the URLs of these blogs without redoing the entire blog. Some I changed the URL of this blog to its current address http://justinmattes.blogspt.com. This is the final change of the actual domain itself. I actually started another blog "The Prequel to Mattes's Madness" but deleted it after one entry. I might actually add another page to this site. Stay tuned for details!!!!
We struck up a friendship and eventually went on a date, well sort of, at the Paramus Park Mall,. SG and I hung out a few times and even though she was a grade ahead of me, I asked her to my junior prom. We had a lot of fun and I didn't think I could ever feel they way I did thaqt night ever again. It occured to me she'd be graduating in a few weeks, so I needed to do something special, So I started writing a letter. I had written letters before it was the right thing to do, I was sad I wouldn't see her as much. So I took her out and presented her what later became referred to as an "J.M. Original. She cried when she finished reading it. That was the first time I ever saw her cry.
I only saw her one time after that, but I wrote her while she was away at college. That was our connection. She didn't have time to write me back, it didn't matter, s he saved ever letter I wrote her. I saw her once right before Christmas she surpised me, I asked her to my senior prom, she accepted. SG promised we would go out to dinner the night before my birthday because she was busy on my actual birthday. I didn't really care because the times spent with her were rare so they were always special. Up to this point we went to the Paramus Park Mall, danced at my junior prom and had all kinds of fun in between. We had a lovely dinner afterwards she needed cigarettes so I directed her to Fusco's Market. I got home to find my dad asleep on the couch. I climbed upstairs and turned on the computer, just started typing..............and never stopped....The night before my 19th birthday......twenty years ago tonight!
I realize writing about a TV show is one step away from going days with out changing out of my pajamas and owning five cats, I hate cats but I'd have puppies that never leave my side.C'all it a part of the winter blues down in Cape May, which is a small price to pay for the wonderful summers down here. Writer's block seems to have kicked into full swing, that and the demise of my one laptop, yes I'm still on mom's Toshiba. One night mom and I were surfing Netflix and came across a Canadian TV show called Heartland about the Fleming family who owns a horse ranch in Alberta, Canada.
The show stars Amber Marshall who plays Amy Fleming who does am,azing things with injured and mistreated horses. This is a trait inherited from her deceased mother Marion, She lives on the ranch with her grandfather Jack, the patriarch of Heartland, her sister Lou, the business woman who later transforms cabins on the ranch into a semi- dude ranch getaway retreat. The show begins by portraying life on an Canadian ranch Two episodes into the first seasons we're introduced to Ty, on a prison-work program who in the beginning can't even ride a horse but in time shares Amy's love of horses and eventually is hired as a vet assistant and later becomes a vet himself . Of course Amy and Ty develop a relationship and well I won't go into details there. There are plenty of story lines to grab your attention where Amy and Ty rescue a troubled horse. Or Amy helps an injured veteran get back up on h is horse after an injury. In another episode Amy and Ty work with a horse training to join the RCMP mounted unit. Of course there are kinds of sub-plots that explore members of the Fleming family. I don't need to detail for this post!
Watching the show every night reminded me of the time I tried horseback riding up at Country Lee Farm up in Pomona, NY. I think my mom found it thro ugh one of my therapists back when I head therapy multiple times a week. I enjoyed riding, even tried a few different techniques if I could recall. I was excited driving what back then seemed like a long ride. I even remember some of the other kids I met. The problem always was my neck control wasn't good back then so it was suggested I stop' Every time I see a horse, I think about those times. That's why I can't get enough of Heartland it takes me back to one of the few times in my life I wish I could repeat
Bernie Sanders was against both the wars in Afghanistan and especially the war in Iraq, Trump was neutral. He said, and maintained that if we went to war we needed to do it better than leaving an unfinished war in Afganistan. Trump also said Saddam Hussein wasn't a threat to the United States. Trump didn't buy into George Bush's foreign policy, which is why most Republicans dislike him. Trump doesn't buy into the "spread democracy" theories of previous Republican presidential candidates, like Lindsay Graham and John McCain. The problem with people like, Bernie Sanders or Elizabeth Warren is they wanted to have one without the other. It was OK with him to leave dictators in place but you know we should bend over backwards to get people in those countries out and eventually into the United States, that was his biggest foreign policy fault. Which is basically what was wrong with the entire anti-war movement during the Bush years. \It was all good and fine people didn't want the US bombing "innocent victims" and all that, let alone "national building", but let's continue to send them aid that will never get to people who\ really need it. Let's just continue giving money to countries who hate America and our values, and let them into our country Trump's actually doing something that Democrats should love, getting the American nose out of the world's business.
If you drew an arch solely based on foreign policy terms and on the right people want the entire world to live in our version of democracy and the left who would let anybody into this country without being vetted. Trump's latest actions should really put America first, this is true. However they also leave other countries to deal with their own affairs without American interference. Trump's entire platform is to look out for America first. It's spreading American values without forcing them onto other countries Based on his actions now, Trump's LESS likely to start yet another military conflict unless the United States is directly attacked OR allies ask for our help. Since the 1960's there has been a forceful drive for acceptance, anything and everything goes and if you resist, you're a bigot. Well Trump[ is simply asking the people being brought here to accept, not fight American values.
Those who arguing this will inspire other attacks of terrorism need to reread the previous paragraph more than once. I do fault Donald Trump for not conveying his thought clearly. That was really Trump's biggest mistake because he left enough room for the Democrats to needle him on it. The "old premise" against the war on terrorism is that it turned peaceful Muslims into radical murderers was preached repeatedly at every turn would be the ultimate argument against. These were the same people who said the Afgan and Iraq "invasions" were a horrible idea. Their basic premise was just leave them alone. Well Trump is basically leaving these people alone. It's actually pretty live and let live philosophy. George W. Bush was too forceful, Barack Obama was too forgiving, Trump is beginning to restore balance here. The "America First" is all-inclusive, it's not "America ONLY", people need to step back and think about what that statement really means.
What Donald trump did bothered me, but I don't need any Hollywood flake to tell me how I feel. That's why people get annoyed when people like Streep get up on their high horses. It isn't that we don't feel they shouldn't use their celebrity for good causes, the y have and should continue. However what bothers just about everyone is we're constantly beaten over our heads with their opinions.n Some might say writing about this only reinforces what Streep said. On the other hand she doesn't have a disability I highly doubt she interacts with people who HAVE disabilities on a regular basis, so how come she feels the urge to use us to attack Trump? trump has made plenty of enemies, many of them he deserves, but on the other hand he has also been unfairly treated in ways nobody has ever imagined! People with disabilities spoke out against Trump, we don't need celebrities doing it for us. The problem wasn't Merryl Streeps message, it was she didn't change any one's mind. Those who agree with her, cheered her for her "bravery" (did she save a baby on her to the stage to receive her award?), she called out Donald Trump, big deal I'm not impressed!!
In the past movies depict people with disabilities in a negative light, but the tide is changing with shows like Speechless and others. There have been more depicting people with disabilities, there need to be more people with actually disabilities playing roles, both in front of and behind the camera. While most people would agree the best way to take on hate is head-on, there are also subtle actions that need to be investigated as well. My hope is for one day a statement is carried of an award stage and onto the silver screen. Not with a big splash, but just like we have gay, black, women or any other minority portrayed on screen. There's a way for inclusion without the "in-your-face" mentality. My hope is Hollywood finds a way to balance the message of inclusion while not overplaying their hand as they have done previously. Part of being "in the norm" is making it part OF the norm! Congrats to all the winners last night